One Card Draw for the week of October 24th, 2016
Did you know that according to psychologists there are seven major forms or types of love? Many are familiar with the three biblical based forms: Eros, Agape and Philos. Those three are included in the seven. Eros is sexual or passionate love, and is the type most akin to our modern construct of romantic love. The hallmark of philia, or friendship, is shared goodwill. Storge or familial love, is a kind of philia pertaining to the love between parents and their children. Agape is universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. Ludus is playful or uncommitted love. It can involve activities such as teasing and dancing, or more overt flirting, seducing, and conjugating. Pragma is a kind of practical love founded on reason or duty and one’s longer-term interests. Philautia is self-love, which can be healthy or unhealthy.
Of course there is a lot of movement between the different types of love. If you think about it, a healthy person nurtures all the different forms of love in their life. Those who tend to ignore the love of others, even those unknown to them (which I have often called simply being kindhearted) tend to destroy the other loves in their life. A person who is ugly to a stranger or a waitress tends to be ugly to everyone, even their family. Of course you don’t necessarily practice all of these at the same moment.
How you treat your boss or coworker can and will filter down into other relationships. It is all interconnected. It is okay to be angry but when you express it you must always make sure that you do so through the love of the person as human who has erred and not as a object to be hated. It’s hard and to some seems impossible. Acting through love does not mean you allow yourself to be taken advantage of, but it means to realize that the person you are interacting no matter how ugly they are, are no less deserving of love than you. Walking away from a negative interaction or confrontation is a form of love.
People often forget that. It is an act that says I would rather go away so as not to harm you in anger, than stay and harm us both. Yet there are times that your love of self must override that love of others. So some of the questions you must ask yourself are: “Do I nurture all the facets of love in my life, or do I neglect some?” “Do I allow myself to be taken advantage of and forget that love of myself is equally important?” “Does walking away in love serve us better or harm us?” Being a being of light and love is NOT an easy task, but worth every minute of it.
Key Phrase for the week: I will focus on nurturing all aspects of love in my life.